Category Archives: adhd

Robins and Snow Hunting

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Today we read a truly lovely poem about Scandinavian robins. We learned about their migration and then Lady P made a lovely picture of two robins. It was a completely unplanned activity but was lovely!

In our part of the UK, we never see snow! It’s tragic actually! I miss snow! Yesterday we decided to hunt for snow. We visited a friend’s farm and they had plenty! Unfortunately, on the way I got stuck in a snow bank and by some miracle, a farmer happened to be in the same place at the same time, and dragged me out of the bank by attaching a rope to my tow bar! It was comical really! Lady P was super anxious and wanted to go home but I just thought it was just like me to go and get stuck in 3cm of snow! Canada will be ashamed!

We managed to finally arrive at our destination and played in the snow, we went sledding and saw horses who came up for a visit! It was wonderful!

Side note: I got an appointment with the School nurse about Penny. She is coming Tuesday to have a chat!

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It’s been a while…

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It has been quite a while since I have written. I couldn’t add anything else to my plate without things toppling off…like my mind. But here we are again! A lot has been happening, but rather than update, I’ve decided just to post what I did today as if I’ve never stopped writing! It’s easier that way!

Today was an outdoor morning: hanging out by the river, climbing muddy hills I didn’t want to, but had to, due to a daredevil 2 year old! I finally got scared and made him come down only to have him scream and kick–on a muddy, slippy mountain (steep hill)–while an old woman watched below with her dogs! I am a total winner! Anyway, we survived and my mountain goat daughters (whom I didn’t worry at all about) climbed with ease! Needless to say, we were filthy! We finished with a feast of foods we shouldn’t eat and watched Home Alone!

Rant Alert:

Yesterday I had my initial appointment for Lady P and her ADHD. The GP was highly patronising and spoke to me like I was a paranoid mother. I mean, what do mothers know?!? Never in the history of mankind, has a mother known something was not right about her kid, have they? (Sarcastic undertones) And seeing that we are living in a generation void of knowledge and information, I obviously can’t research things for myself and know stuff! He point blank, without even meeting her, said she did not have it because (and I quote): ‘She acts just like my kids”. Did I come in here to talk about your kids? No. If his kids are just like my imaginary daughter that he didn’t meet, he should have his own kids checked! Just saying! He must be a blinking genius because he knows more about my child from NOT meeting her than I know from the 6 years and 10 months of knowing her on the outside and the 40 weeks plus 5 days I had her on the inside!!! I was so mad! I even threw my 10 years teaching Special Needs experience at him. I asked him to tell me how he would expect her to behave to have ADHD because she’s a girl and girls tend to display things differently than boys. No joy! Perhaps if she were an out-of-control boy who burned down garages, I’d get a listening ear. Not to mention the look of horror and disbelief when I told him I home educated her. *sigh*

Today my home ed rep called me and I told her what happened. She said I can go through the school nurse, who deals with home ed kids; she’ll observe her and discuss things with me and hopefully things will move her along. Literally a 2 min phone call renewed my faith in the system.

Perhaps if my GP spent more time at home dealing with his children’s behaviour and less time GPing, he could sort out the behaviour issues he’s having with them! Maybe he should call the school nurse for support…

Rant Done

Montessori Constructive Triangles

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Everyone has some sort of illness in this house so not much is being done. However, we managed a couple of activities! Lady P continued with Singapore maths. She’s finding it challenging but I know once she understands the basics, future maths will be easier!

She is currently practicing adding and subtracting using ones and tens. She can do it using her snap cubes but when it comes to writing it down, it can be confusing! But we shall persevere!

Cheeky girl tried the constructive triangles today and enjoyed using them.

I think she enjoyed the hands on maths! She also learned how to add using snap cubes! I was quite pleased for her.

Although we didn’t do much, they seemed to do well with the activities.

Autumn already?

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The weather has been wet this summer! And now it’s autumn weather! The kids had a busy day today! They got more done then I expected as we are watching another Little person twice a week.

Yesterday was also a good day for learning! We have hit the ground running!

Because my eldest has ADHD, I’m attempting to create a better schedule. She needs to know what we are doing and how long we are doing it. This can be annoying for me but then I realised she NEEDS to know! It causes anxiety when she doesn’t know. I personally find it difficult creating a schedule we follow all the time because we are a home, not a school and I didn’t really want it to mimic school. I guess I’ll try somewhere in between!

First Day of ‘School’

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I’ve not written in a long time but I’m hoping to change all that! Today we went back to non school. It was a mixed day. I felt very stressed and my eldest was struggling to remain calm. But we managed!

In the morning we did some English and geography. They are studying lake Louise in Alberta because Daddy is going there for his friend’s wedding.

They wrote a story and did some Jolly Phonics workbooks as well.

Later on, after lunch, we went to our woods and did some water colour painting of things we found, then they climbed trees. We headed to the zoo nearby (we have a zoo pass this year) and learned about peacocks, peahens and peachicks (I didn’t know they were called this!).

We then headed home, Little man had a nap, cheeky girl had iPad time and lady P and I had a disastrous maths lesson! I should have realised she’d be unable to concentrate but I persevered and made her miserable! So lesson learned: do academics in the morning and learn to let go when you need to!

After all this, they went to swimming lessons, ate homemade pizza and watched The Magic School Bus! I’m exhausted!

Elmer the Elephant

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Today Lady P did some addition questions and then coloured Elmer the elephant with colours that corresponded to the answers.  Lady P has to do her work out loud. She gets distracted otherwise. She also sings in between each question.  Needless to say, this sheet took a very long time.  And she only managed a few questions due to her being highly distractible.  

Cheeky girl enjoyed doing puzzles and was very focussed! I loved watching her do them. She’s only just turned 4 but she was managing to complete them on her own! And Little Man was able to do a two piece puzzle on his own. He found the two pieces that were yellow and put them together! He surprises me everyday! He’s so independent! I thought boys let you do everything for them (or so I was told repeatedly) but not him! He lets me do nothing for him! 

Just goes to show, you get what you get with these babies! They have their own unique personalities and if you work with them instead of against them, there’s no telling how amazing they’ll become!!!

Maths and Jumping

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Yesterday we got back to business (after getting our hair done) after having this nasty vomiting bug going around! 

Lady P was ready to work!  She did some Maths at the board so she could stand instead of sit.  I began to notice her struggle with counting backwards while doing subtraction. So I decided to get her to jump backwards as many jumps as she needed to subtract. So 12-4 meant  she jumped back 4 while counting from 12.  I realised this took quite a bit of coordination; however, she enjoyed this activity and kept asking for more subtraction problems. Her brain moves at a mile-a-minute so this helped her to focus!  All the movement really aided her understanding! 

I also have come to realise that when I teach her something new, it seems to take a few days to sink in and suddenly, she can do it! Patience and perseverance are the basis of teaching! I find that difficult when it’s your own child! 


We also started our work on Little Red Riding Hood. We read one version then started writing a brief storyboard.  I have researched ADHD a lot and one thing that stands out is that they have wonderful ideas but their hands can’t write as fast as their minds move so they forget what they want to write.  So I get Lady P to tell me what she wants to write, then I remember it for her so she can focus on writing instead of remembering. This has taken the stress out of writing for now.  I am researching programmes for the iPad which will type what she dictates as she loves telling stories!

Home Education and ADHD

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We’ve been spending a lot of time doing lots of physical activity.  Lady P is not diagnosed (nor am I taking that route), but I strongly suspect ADHD.  I manage it with a healthy diet, no e-numbers or artificial colours, sugar or anything else that seems to trigger crazy moments.  This has helped greatly!  We also spend a lot of time reenacting social situations where she has struggled to behave in an acceptable manner.  I am finding that she responds well to this and if the situation arises again, she tends to remember what she should do…but not always.

I’m just happy we’re  in a situation where we can keep Lady P home and not send her to a one-size-fits-all school.  She needs lots of movement in her life and sitting at a desk would not be a great place for her. I would hate for the light of excitement to leave her eyes!  Because that is exactly how I would describe her!  A ball of excitable energy.  My mum and dad were on video call today and showed her the snow (we are going to visit them in a few weeks) and it took forever to calm her down.  She literally feels more than anyone I know!  She received her swimming badge for 5 m and she jumped for joy and was so excited.  The other kids just reacted quietly but not Lady P.  She ran to me, face beaming, that she had achieved a swimming badge.  It was lovely!

I am learning that she is who she is.  I am trying not to shout at her when she doesn’t listen for the millionth time that day.  I am trying to change my parenting rather than her because in reality, she’s a lovely little person!  She’s helpful, always does her chores without complaint, she tries really hard to please us, she is artistic (she is never without a pen and drawing pad), she is clever, her memory is incredible, she adores her siblings and mostly treats them well and she loves physical activity.  So I’m trying to embrace my new role.  I’m rubbish at it so far, but I figure, she’s pretty forgiving; but as long as I keep trying, she’ll keep trying.

Lately, I’ve been watching some really enlightening videos on youtube about young people and adults who have ADHD and how they’ve managed.  There isn’t a lot out there on home educating a child with ADHD, particularly a girl.  Girls tend to have very different ways of showing ADHD.  From my personal research and own experience teaching SEN in schools, girls get overlooked a lot because they aren’t always troublemakers.  Lady P is wonderful and full of energy and extremely chatty.  I’m trying to embrace this as a positive thing though sometimes I wish she would be more cautious speaking with strangers.

One video I found quite good was done by Salif Mahamane in a TED talk called ‘ADHD Sucks, But Not Really’.  It is really enlightening and well discussed.  Although it touches on evolution which I don’t agree with, it still makes really good points.

Another excellent and funny video was posted on YouTube by a young teenage girl: What Having ADD/ADHD Feels Like.  I liked this video because I see my own little girl, growing up to be just like her.  It actually makes me feel more confident about my daughter, that she’ll be okay.  It helped me understand her a little bit better.

Well, I feel like this has been a very brave step for me.  I’m choosing not to get a diagnosis because it’s a long winded process where psychologists and doctors all get involved then tell you you’re imagining things because she’s not a terror.  I don’t need self-doubt in my life nor do I want Lady P to feel like she’s not good enough.  When she is old enough, I will discuss these things with her so she can understand her own mind and why she struggles to concentrate so much.  Then we’ll take it from there.  Until then, we shall play, play, play!


Thank you!