We’ve been spending a lot of time doing lots of physical activity. Lady P is not diagnosed (nor am I taking that route), but I strongly suspect ADHD. I manage it with a healthy diet, no e-numbers or artificial colours, sugar or anything else that seems to trigger crazy moments. This has helped greatly! We also spend a lot of time reenacting social situations where she has struggled to behave in an acceptable manner. I am finding that she responds well to this and if the situation arises again, she tends to remember what she should do…but not always.
I’m just happy we’re in a situation where we can keep Lady P home and not send her to a one-size-fits-all school. She needs lots of movement in her life and sitting at a desk would not be a great place for her. I would hate for the light of excitement to leave her eyes! Because that is exactly how I would describe her! A ball of excitable energy. My mum and dad were on video call today and showed her the snow (we are going to visit them in a few weeks) and it took forever to calm her down. She literally feels more than anyone I know! She received her swimming badge for 5 m and she jumped for joy and was so excited. The other kids just reacted quietly but not Lady P. She ran to me, face beaming, that she had achieved a swimming badge. It was lovely!
I am learning that she is who she is. I am trying not to shout at her when she doesn’t listen for the millionth time that day. I am trying to change my parenting rather than her because in reality, she’s a lovely little person! She’s helpful, always does her chores without complaint, she tries really hard to please us, she is artistic (she is never without a pen and drawing pad), she is clever, her memory is incredible, she adores her siblings and mostly treats them well and she loves physical activity. So I’m trying to embrace my new role. I’m rubbish at it so far, but I figure, she’s pretty forgiving; but as long as I keep trying, she’ll keep trying.
Lately, I’ve been watching some really enlightening videos on youtube about young people and adults who have ADHD and how they’ve managed. There isn’t a lot out there on home educating a child with ADHD, particularly a girl. Girls tend to have very different ways of showing ADHD. From my personal research and own experience teaching SEN in schools, girls get overlooked a lot because they aren’t always troublemakers. Lady P is wonderful and full of energy and extremely chatty. I’m trying to embrace this as a positive thing though sometimes I wish she would be more cautious speaking with strangers.
One video I found quite good was done by Salif Mahamane in a TED talk called ‘ADHD Sucks, But Not Really’. It is really enlightening and well discussed. Although it touches on evolution which I don’t agree with, it still makes really good points.
Another excellent and funny video was posted on YouTube by a young teenage girl: What Having ADD/ADHD Feels Like. I liked this video because I see my own little girl, growing up to be just like her. It actually makes me feel more confident about my daughter, that she’ll be okay. It helped me understand her a little bit better.
Well, I feel like this has been a very brave step for me. I’m choosing not to get a diagnosis because it’s a long winded process where psychologists and doctors all get involved then tell you you’re imagining things because she’s not a terror. I don’t need self-doubt in my life nor do I want Lady P to feel like she’s not good enough. When she is old enough, I will discuss these things with her so she can understand her own mind and why she struggles to concentrate so much. Then we’ll take it from there. Until then, we shall play, play, play!